REJECTION
REJECTION THE SPARK TO VICTORY
Over 2,000 years ago, in his epic Allegory of the Cave, Plato proposed that our reality may be only a fragment of a greater existence, limited by our finite ability to perceive the world through our five senses. In other words, our perception can be distorted by our inability to fully process the information necessary for clear understanding. Therefore, it is wise to take time and evaluate our perceptions of the world around us.
Solomon writes, "Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way." — Proverbs 19:2 (ESV)
Since our initial perceptions can often be skewed, it stands to reason that when we experience rejection, our understanding of it may also be misconstrued.
Rejection, in any form, never feels good. Let’s be honest—no one likes being rejected. In reality, many mental health issues stem from experiences of rejection. Nicole F. Roberts, in her article for Forbes.com, titled "Rejection and Physical Pain Are the Same to Your Brain" (Roberts, 2015), discusses research suggesting that the brain processes rejection in a similar way to physical injury.
She states:
"Research out of the University of Michigan suggests that not only does the brain process rejection like it does physical injury, but that personality traits such as 'resilience' are vital to how we process pain. The brain’s natural painkilling response varies between humans, with some releasing more opioids during social rejection than others, meaning that some have a stronger—or more adaptive—protective ability." (Roberts, 2015)
Rejection can be like a bucket of water poured over a fire. At first, the water may not fully extinguish the flames, but with enough of it, the fire can eventually be put out. However, if the flame is strong and intense enough, it will continue to burn, consuming everything in its path. This is where I argue that rejection can either quench your fire or fuel it.
It all begins with a decision in your heart—a decision to believe that God made you unique and that He doesn’t make mistakes. A belief that you are capable of achieving your dreams and goals. You must hold onto this belief so firmly that your heart becomes fortified, allowing only what strengthens you to enter. However, be careful—don’t let this fortress become a wall that keeps people out of your life. Instead, build walls that prevent negative perceptions from consuming you. Remember, your perception might be lying to you.
Rather than viewing rejection negatively, see it as an opportunity to grow—to reevaluate your circumstances and make better decisions. I know this is easier said than done, but you truly have a choice. You can either drown in sorrow or set sail and allow the winds of growth to propel you toward a more joyful and fulfilling life. You have free will and dominion over your thoughts and perceptions.
Learn to slow down and seek understanding. Learn to stop and appreciate life even when everything seems to be falling apart. Pray, trust God with your life, and watch as Jesus reveals your purpose and solidifies your destiny. Let your light shine brightly in the world—you were made for this! Be courageous. Have the heart of a warrior!
"No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward, there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way." — Hebrews 12:11 (NLT)
"Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way." — James 1:2-4 (MSG)
"This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." — Joshua 1:9 (NLT)
Ignite the light,
Elijah
References
Roberts, N. F. (2015, December 25). Rejection And Physical Pain Are The Same To Your Brain. Forbes.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nicolefisher/2015/12/25/rejection-and-physical-pain- are-the-same-to-
your-brain/?sh=325d8684f87f